Wednesday, June 17, 2015

5 WORDS OR LESS: MY WIP, MY CHARACTERS, MY SETTING, MY CONFLICT

Well, it's Wednesday again, which means it's time for Randomness! And it's also time for the hot guy of the week



Wow, so this week we're describing our current WIP (work in progress) in 5 words. The book I'm working on is called Entangled (used to be Soul Bond) and is a MMF.

WIP - Vampires, Menage, Action, Hot, Mystery

Characters - Dangerous, Sexy, Smart, Conflicted, Solitary

Setting - Urban, Vampire Enclave, 

Conflict - Kidnapping, Murder, Vampires/Human menage

There it is. I keep saying I'm half way through, but I'm rewriting a piece I started on ages ago and so much has changed with it I should have scraped it and started fresh. For every thousand words I write, I delete another thousand. 

I figure I'll be finished eventually. Now run out and check out what the other ladies have to say.

Jessica
Bronwyn
Kris
Kellie
Jessica D
Paige

See you all next week! -- Gwen

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

WHEN I'M STRESSED I RELAX BY . . . .

Hello and welcome to the incredible thing that is the Randomness of Wednesday. Today our topic is all about combating stress. Oh first let me fill your life with awesome. 


Yeah, if looking at him doesn't relax someone, I don't know what will.

Anyway, I have a variety of things I do to cope with stress. The biggie is reading. I love to read and, as time has gone by, I've found more and more genres I like. I especially love nonfiction books and can read two or more of these at the same time. History, science, and social science are some of my favorite topics, also the quirkier the better.

Right now I'm reading a few books. One is called My Planet by Mary Roach (she's awesome and funny). Another is called The Invention of Murder: How the Victorians Revelled in Death and Detection and Created Modern Crime by Judith Flanders (Yes I swear that's the title). The Unleashing by Shelly Laurenston (an author that makes me laugh out loud)

I'm also a knitter. This gives my hands something to do when I'm watching TV. I hate sitting through commercials. If something is really bothering me I'll read through the commercials because I don't like to give myself time to worry and worry and worry. It's useless and often doesn't solve anything. If I can't read because my mind is running a million miles an hour I love to do word search puzzles. I have a big book of them and will drag them around with me from room to room.

Another relaxing thing is computer games. I like hidden object games and also match 3 deals. I have a couple of them on my computer I can open up whenever the need hits. When I'm doing this I'll either listen to music or a book on my MP3 player. I love listening to audio books. Right now it's Nalini Singh's Psy/Changeling series I'm going through. 


If everything else fails, I go out for a drive.  I don't go huge distances, usually to the Starbucks about 20 minutes away, but a drive will help clear my head. Plus, the yummy coffee drink doesn't hurt either. 

One thing I never, ever do is go to places such as Target. Stress will make me fill up my cart with stupid stuff that I don't need and I'll roll out with a huge bill. Nope, been there, done that and don't want to go back. So shopping isn't an option. 

I also don't craft when I'm stressed. I need to be able to concentrate when I'm doing something like making jewelry. I've discovered stress and concentration do not go together. Though, I will go through Pinterest to look for crafting ideas. Right now, I'm planning for Halloween. I know, don't judge, so I'm looking around for decoration ideas.

Now run over and check out what the other girls do to alleviate stress.

Jessica
Bronwyn
Kris
Kellie
Jessica D


See you all next week! -- Gwen

Friday, June 5, 2015

THE DUGGAR SITUATION AND CHILD MOLESTATION

I've been following this whole Duggar situation. Not as if I consciously want to, but it's there, in my face, day in and day out. I've really tried to ignore it, but I just can't anymore. Not when assinine people comment shit like "he was just a kid" and "he's really sorry" and "it happened so long ago" and my favorite "well he just touched them over their clothes, while they were sleeping."

My response to all of this is Really Fucktards?? Really?? So because he was "just" a kid -- he was 15 -- what he did was okay? And that it happened "so long ago" it should be ignored? So "he's really sorry" . . . that and a nickle will get you shit. And finally "he just touched them over their clothes, while they were sleeping" is another excuse in a long line of excuses.

As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse by someone who was considered "just a kid" I am furious! My molester was 11 . . . did you catch that . . . HE WAS 11 and I was 6. So are you going to stand there and tell me what happened to me wasn't abuse because he wasn't "old enough"? Or, it was just experimentation?? No, no it wasn't. He touched, fondled, and tried sexual penetration. Once again, he was 11 . . . so does that make what he did okay?? 

Josh Duggar is a child molester, sexual predator, pedophile. It doesn't matter what age he was. He didn't perpetrate once or twice, hell no, it was more like 5 or more times that we know of. He just kept doing it over and over. People like this don't stop. They can't. It's something hard-wired into them. 

The recidivism rate for child molesters is extremely high. They are 4 times more likely to reoffend. 4 TIMES! No one got Duggar any help what-so-ever, his family, like most swept it under the rug and closed ranks. It happened in my family. Once again, sexual predators don't stop. It would be like asking a lion or tiger not to hunt. It's never going to happen.

So, they've closed ranks and protected their precious son. You can't tell me he didn't continue to offend. It's not possible. As I've said, people like this don't just stop. He molested little kids and he'll continue to do it. He had a clear field because they will protect and hide him. I feel so, so horrible for his children and the other children he has contact with. 

I only hope his victims actually come forward. You know his sisters won't, since they've been brain-washed into the whole idea that either it was their fault or what happened wasn't a big deal. Hell they were on TV defending him. 

Oh and another thing. People are acting as if the release of this information is the big bad in this whole situation. As if, releasing the information is worse than sexually molesting children. NOT! Yeah, there's such a thing as the freedom of information act. The magazine requested the information and it was given to them. The case wasn't sealed. It was out there for everyone to find. 

*taking a deep breath* I understand that everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, but when the opinion is so fucking stupid you need to shut up. Sexual abuse isn't a life experience someone just get's over. It leaves a mark. It changes you in ways you can't even understand unless you've lived through it. Sexual abuse shapes your whole entire life and you may go through tons of therapy and move beyond the event, but it's always there. Waiting. It only takes one thing to trigger a memory and you're right back there again. Then you're working to claw your way back out again. To be okay again. 

I know the abuse shaped my life. Made me who I am. In the beginning, I often wondered who I would have turned out to be if my cousin wouldn't have existed. After a while, I realized it was a useless exercise and all it did was make me angry. So I had to put it and whoever I would have been away. She doesn't exist. I'm here and I'm all I have to work with. 

I just cross my fingers and hope all of Duggar's victims can heal and move beyond. As for him, I hope he rots in a jail cell where he belongs. Oh and his daddy needs to go with him since he's the king of the family and makes the decisions. 

Angry? You better fucking believe I'm angry. I doubt I'll ever get beyond that emotion when I hear stories like this. The sad thing is until we, as a society, quit protecting predators and take responsibility to instead protect our children we'll continue to hear stories like this. I just hope that people gain more understanding instead of shooting their mouths off about stuff they can't begin to relate to. 

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

FAVORITE THINGS: QUOTES

Happy Gwensday! I wish I could tell you I have some deep, indepth quotes to toss your way. Words that would totally change your life, make you think, or amaze your brain. Yeah, I don't have any of those. I do have a hunky man pic, though.


And, now, onto my favorite quotes.







And, there you have it!! Now run over and check out what everyone else loves. I'm sure they'll be more inspiring than mine. LOL!!

Jessica
Bronwyn
Kris
Kellie
Jessica D
Kayleigh
Paige

See you all next week!! -- Gwen