Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Random Wednesday Blog: What's My Sign ????

Hello and welcome once again that is the fabulous randomness of the Random Wednesday Blog!!  This week the Blogger Girlz and I are chatting about what our signs are and do they fit us. I think my sign fits me very well and it's all true.

But I'm sure that's not what the Girlz were referring to when they came up with the post. So, I was born under the sign of Gemini and strangely enough so was my sister. She is almost 3 years younger than me, but her birthdays is 6 days before mine. *pause* Yep, I'm giving you time to take that in. I always felt bad for my Mom since she never got a break on present buying.

Anyway, I looked up the traits of a Gemini and found this on a website called I will go through them each and try to be as honest as I can because truly who likes looking closely at themselves. Eeesh, I'd rather lounge back, eat a bon-bon and read.

Saturday, August 16, 2014

No, I Don't Have Any Children . . . .

My entire adult life I have been asked if I have children. I'm a woman, after all, I should have them. I should want them. Guess what? I don't. I don't have children nor have I ever wanted children. It's not that I don't like kids, I do. I love them. I was a classroom teacher for 5 years (4 years with 5th grade and 1 year with 4th grade) and a museum educator for 5 years. I think kids are so smart and just not given the credit they deserve. They really are more observant and more clever than you think. But even knowing all of this, I don't want any of my own.

I've known that I don't want kids ever since I was a kid. When people ask me if I have kids I always joke that my mom did the mother's curse, you know the one. "I hope you have a kid just like you." And I knew I was such a brat there was no way I was having one. *cue laughter* Okay, that part is true. I was a huge brat and I'm often amazed that I made it into adulthood without my mother killing me dead. But that has nothing to do with why I don't have a kid. I don't have the desire to have one. I never felt my biological clock ticking or whatever. I never felt the urge to nurture a child in my body.

Perhaps it has to do with my childhood. My father, bless his heart (I'm southern and we do that) was an alcoholic. He could drink an entire case of beer by himself over the weekend. If you don't know how many that is, it's 24 bottles of beer. My mom would maybe get 1 and he'd drink the rest. Sometimes, he wouldn't bother coming home from work on Friday and be gone all weekend long. He'd finally stagger in on Sunday evening where there would be icy silences and low conversations. Though he'd do all this, my mother never divorced him and she would buy the cases of beer. So she was an enabler and I'm sure she didn't see herself that way, but a billion dollars worth of therapy and a lot of years tells me that she was.

In the midst of this dysfunctional household, which totally revolved around my dad's drinking, controlling the drinking, and managing the drinking my mom just didn't have time. She often said she had 3 children and her daughters were the easiest to take care of. Anyway, because of this dysfunction within our tiny family unit I was sexually molested by an older cousin when I was around 6. I never told and no one noticed. I lived with this secret for a very long time. It totally shaped my entire life and how I saw things and the decisions I made. So kids, no way. Hell on a good day I was lucky to take care of myself. I knew there was no way I could take care of a child.

I eventually went to therapy and after a blue million dollars I am so much healthier and happier. I realize now I have clinical depression, which is a disease. This means my brain doesn't create certain chemicals I need to function on a normal daily basis. I'm smart and take meds for this. I know I will take these for the rest of my life and I'm good with that. I have to take blood pressure pills too so there really isn't much difference.

Even after the pills and the therapy I still know I don't want kids. Like I sad, I really love kids so I became a teacher. I love interacting with them and working with them and teaching them. But, at the end of the day, I want to go home and not have children in my house. My very close friends understand this about me. But I still meet many people who ask the question about kids and I explain I don't have them and I usually get the face. Or they say something like, "Well that's unfortunate." or "You'd make such an awesome mom." Thankfully I don't get the "you'll change your mind" anymore since I'm 48 and am considered "too old" to have kids.

I wonder if men are asked constantly if they have kids. I know as a woman I am so are men subjected to the same questioning? I remember the first time I was asked the kids question. It was at my dad's funeral, I was 19. Someone thought it was such a shame he didn't have grand kids and now he'd never see them. Yeah, guess what pal, there will never be any grand kids. Ever. I figured I'd leave that to my younger sister. Guess what? She didn't want kids either. Hmmm, so was it nature or nurture that didn't give us the burning desire to have children? Don't know, since I am not a scientist with a hundred degrees, but I do believe the household didn't nurture that urge to have children.

As an adult, I can look back and see that my mom did the best she could. She loved us and took care of us and supported us in whatever we wanted to do. She was our cheerleader and our confidant and the person we ran to when we were hurt. She often told us that we were the lights of her life. There wasn't a day that went by that we didn't know we were loved by her.

And none of that still encouraged me to have children. I know I'm not the only woman out there who didn't want children. I have friends who don't have children and didn't want children. So please do not pity us or shake your head and tsk when we tell you we have no children. In fact, don't make that the first question you ask a woman you just met as if that would be the biggest accomplishment in her entire life. Hell, ask about what book she's reading or if she's taken a vacation or where she had her nails done. If someone wants you to know about their kids I am sure they will tell you, but please don't naturally assume that just because a person has a womb they have kids.

And if you don't have kids and don't want kids please DO NOT be embarrassed or make excuses. You don't owe anyone an explanation about how you chose to live your life. Just make sure you have lived the kind of life you want and you are getting out of it the things that make you happy.


Thursday, August 14, 2014

Crushing on Some Boy - Redo

Okay, so when I was a wee babe, much wee-er (is that a word) anyway than I thought, I had the most horrible crush on Tony DeFranco. Now, those of you who aren't of a certain age are probably saying, "Who the hell is he?" Well he was just the cutest little thing in a skin-tight powder blue jumpsuit with huge bell bottoms you'd ever want to see. 

That's him!! Isn't he utterly adorbs!

Oh and he worse a sequin belt, cannot forget that most important accessory to just overload a guy with manliness. Anyway, he and his family (think the Jackson 5, but not that much talent) had a song out called A Heartbeat is a Love Beat and I loved him. I thought he was the next best thing to a chocolate chip cookie or something like that. He made my little 7 year-old heart go pitter-patter or mayhaps would that be a "love beat."

Notice the powder blue jump suit! And his has a tiger on it. Grrrarrrr!!

I'm sure you are wondering why the crap I am bringing all this up. I will tell you, so hold your horses. My BFF and 
writing partner Jessica Jarman and I were on IM and we were chatting about stuff when I mentioned I had found
the song. So I sent it to her. Then I went in search of the video. I knew there would be one. These people had a 
TV show, though I don't know how. So I found them on dancing and singing their little hearts 
out and sent it to Jess. Where we spent the next 5 minute laughing uncontrollably. Between the posh outfits
(the aforementioned powder blue jumpsuits) and the incredible dance moves (bad karate kicks and shoulder shrugs)
 we were weeping by the time it was over.

Check them out on Youtube!! And notice they are featuring Tony DeFranco. He wasn't some two-bit backup singer, 
he was the star baby!!!!  And I bet he didn't let anyone forget it. 

The point of all this rambling, and there is a point, is something along the lines of you can't go back. But, of course,
 that would be if I were mature and such. No, as most my friends will tell you, I'm pretty much 12 on a good day so
 MY point is go back and look at who you had a crush on when you were a kid. If you're still crushing on those 
types of people . . . RUN AWAY!!!!! Because believe me I have way outgrown jumpsuits and sequined belts. . . or
not. :-D

Listen to my heart pound!! Listen to my heart sound! And they could write awesome lyrics too. :-)


Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Fabulous Cover Reveal for Amazing Author Christine Allen-Riley!

Eventide (Iron Falls, #1)
Release Date: 10/2014

Summary from Goodreads:
The driver in a tragic car accident that killed her best friend, Devon Greer is consumed by guilt. When powerful hallucinations convince her that she’s seeing Rachael everywhere, Devon thinks she’s going crazy. But her friend isn’t truly gone.

To save Rachael from the faeries who stole her, Devon must pit herself against the Court of the Sidhe. Once she witnesses the true form of the fey, Devon’s life is in danger—and so are the lives of everyone she loves.

Now, Devon must not only protect herself, but also Jonah Seafort, Rachael’s cousin and the only person Devon can trust to help her. While the Sidhe walk among them, no one is safe…

About the Author
Lover of books, nature, cats and shiny things. Active disliker of cooking, cleaning and stress. Mom, freelance editor & YA author - also a bit of a nerd.

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Random Wednesday Blog: Self-Interview a la James Lipton

Hello!!Welcome to the Random Wednesday Blog! Yeah, I'm late and I'll tell you why, I didn't realize it was Wednesday. Whatever, make fun of me, but we came back from Authors After Dark on Sunday and I just can't seem to get my days straight. Oh way, I need a pic of a hot guy too. Can't do without that!!

Anyway, better late than never. Right??  So today's topic is a self-interview sort of like James Lipton does on In the Actors' Studio or whatever that show is called. For this you will have to pretend he's asking me questions. Are you ready??

Q: What’s your favorite word? 
A: You won a billion dollars! No really, my favorite words are The End. I love finishing a book and typing those two words.

Q: What’s your least favorite word? 
A: No, that's my least favorite word. I hate to use it and I hate to hear it, but sometimes it just has to be.

Q: What turns you on?
A: The idea for a new book. I love when a new idea just appears in my head. 

Q: What turns you off? 
A: When I realize that I can't work on that new idea because I already have 10 other projects in front of it.

Q: What sound do you love?
A: I love hearing my friends laugh. I also love the sound of the surf on the beach.

Q: What sound do you hate?
A: The alarm clock going off in the morning

Q: What’s your favorite curse word?
A: Fuck of course

Q: What profession other than yours would you like to attempt?
A: Photojournalist. I would love to take pics that touch people

Q: What profession would you not like to do?
A: One that makes you work outside all day. That is so not for me.

Q: If heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the pearly gates?
A: Good Job! Now all your friends and family are over there so go on now and have a good time. I imagine god as a polite southern lady.

Q: Dog or cat person?
A: Both, but right now I have cats

Q: Coffee or tea?
A: Both, but I like tea more

Q: Star Wars or Star Trek?
A: Star Trek!

Q: Buffy, Angel or Firefly
A: I loved Buffy, that show totally cracked me up

Q: Pirate or ninja?
A: Ninja because they are way cooler

Q: Morning or night person?
A: Night person though I've been trying to break the stay up all night routine.

Q: Procrastinator or get things done early?
A: Sadly, I am a procrastinator. 

Q: Introvert or extrovert
A: Introvert, though you might not realize it. But I need alone time to recharge and get myself back together.

Q: What do you like best about writing?
A: I love creating my own worlds and people. I love the creativity that sometimes just flows and I will often look at what I write and think, "Damn, that's good."

Q: What do you like least?
A: That I'm not faster at it and I can't seem to force myself into a schedule.

And there it is, the self-interview. Now go check out the other Blogger Girlz and see what they have to say for themselves. I bet it will be way interesting. 

See you next week!! --GC

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Random Wednesday Post: A Few of my Favorite Things . . . TV Shows

Welcome back to the randomness that is the Random Wednesday Blog!!  This week's topic is all about our favorite TV shows. I'll admit I don't get attached to a lot of programs on TV. I don't like the thought that I have to watch something each and every week. Sometimes I'll start watching a program then so many weeks in I'll dump it because it just sucks up too much time. Like I'm so busy or something. *snort*  Anyway, here are some of the shows that have made the cut and I must watch them every week.

1. Sleepy Hollow (OMG!!!! I love, love, love this show) And this is one of the reasons why. Tom Mison is amazing. He's not just an awesome actor, but is so yummy in his role as Ichabod Crane.  The show is also creepy and funny and just an awesomely good time.

2. The Big Bang Theory - this show never fails to make me laugh. And, since I'm a fairly big nerd, I get most of the stuff they're talking about. Score for me.

3. The Three Musketeers - new show I've discovered on BBC America and I really like it. The action is fast, the stories are good and the actors are talented. And hot, have I mentioned they're hot.

4. 10 Things You Don't Know About - this show is on the History Channel and is hosted by Henry Rollins of the Rollins Band and Black Flag. I am a huge history geek and this show is so well done. My favorite show they've done so far is 10 Things You Don't Know About the Founding Fathers.

5. Top Gear (British version on BBC American) - okay don't judge, but I love this show. The three hosts never fail to make me laugh, often so hard I am crying. My sister and I started watching this about two years ago and we faithfully DVR it each week.

6. Monumental Mysteries and Mysteries at the Museum - both of these are on the Travel Channel and star Don Wildman who is pretty good to look at. But, once again, I like them because they always have some kind of history they're talking about. Plus, the shows are often just fun.

That's it for me, like I said I don't watch tons of TV. Now, my sister, on the other hand, jeez louise she watches like a billion shows a week. When she moved in with me our TV bill went from 30.00 a month to well over 100.00 and she had a huge list of shows she brought with her to make sure she DVR'd everything she loves. The woman watches everything from Orphan Black to Doctor Who to Arrow and Supernatural. I often cannot keep up with her TV viewing list.

Now head over to see what the other Blogger Girlz are watching: Bronwyn and Jessica. Maybe you'll discover some new shows you need to try.

See you next week! --GC

Sunday, August 3, 2014

Deep Thoughts for a Sunday Night

I saw the above ditty on Facebook and it really hit me that this is so true. And, yes, you're right, this is probably going to be mildly serious. But it's a Sunday night and if you can't have serious thoughts on a Sunday, when should you have them???

So about a blue million years ago (which if you don't know is a really long time) I worked at B. Dalton Bookseller. It was supposed to be just for the holidays, but as with most things that's not how it turned out. Before the place closed I had collected a 5 year pin . . . yeah, don't judge. I loved that place. It was small and we were so close knit and it was a ton of fun.  Anyway, one day I was shelving books and I came across a book by Cherry Adair. I don't even know what book it was, but I thought it sounded good so I bought it. Let me also share that my paychecks rarely made it home from that place. I always ended up spending way more than I made. *shrug*

So I brought the book home and that weekend I got so sick it wasn't funny. I laid stunned the entire weekend and all I did was sleep and read the book. Once I felt well enough I realized I really loved the book so I wrote to the author to tell her. I never did this, ever, but for some reason I was driven to tell her how much I loved that book. She is so incredibly nice and we exchanged emails and she invited me to join her online writing group. She was going to mentor a group of us to our first book. O_O I was so excited! I had written my entire life, but had never finished a book.

Of course, I jumped at the chance and joined. Within a day or so, I was chatting with a girl in the group. She and I just clicked. She was married and had just had a baby and was currently going to school  and was living in another state and on the surface we really didn't have much in common since I wasn't married and didn't have a kid, but boy I sure understood about going to school. We also had the writing to talk about, which we did. Then the writing leaked over into our lives and who we were and just all kinds of stuff.

The group ended up dissolving since Cherry's career exploded overnight and she couldn't give us the time she wanted to. But the girl I had made friends with stayed my friend.

Now, that baby she just had is getting ready for his senior year of high school. And we've been friends for a very long time. We've visited one another a lot, flown across the country together, talked endlessly on the phone and by IM, and her family came to stay with me last summer without her. Because they're my family too. Who is this girl you ask?? It is the ever fabulous Jessica Jarman! I read the above post on FB and since I am going to see her this week at AAD I realized if it wasn't for Cherry I never would have met Jessica. If I wouldn't have met Jessica I doubt very highly I would have written the books I have or had the fun I've had.

If you see us at AAD don't be afraid come on up to us! Ask us about the flight we took from Seattle to Minneapolis where we laughed and laughed until we cried. Or the 15 hours drive where we listened to just 1 CD the entire way. Ahhh, Will Smith. Or just come up and tell us about that friend you have that changed your life too then I can share with you my friend that changed my life.